absolutum dominium

his car is making me very spoilt. i haven't taken the bus in a while. every night he drives by to fetch me, and we just drive all around singapore. last night we found ourselves in lim chu kang, among other superbly ulu places.

tonight we had xo fish head bee hoon at holland v, tcc dark devotion and hot chocolate at millenia walk, and plain and egg prata and milo dinosaur at al-azhar at bukit timah. plus a whole lot of driving in between.

photo time!

the proletariat.



his little bourgeoisie.



itchy eyebrows.



and 2.



*muakz*

tonight we were discussing marriage, a subject tt was troubling me. what with the high divorce rates and all, i was wondering what it is about marriages, tt it seems like so many in singapore don't seem to work out.

why do so many people take each other for granted? why don't we seem to have this culture of wanting to work things out? at the slightest, we just want to leave. and why is it tt so many men... just seem to have problems remaining monogamous? how do some men get married... and still continue playing around less than a month into the marriage itself?

i mean, how can you believe tt you can get away with anything and not have your wife leave you?

he thinks tt the government is partially responsible for this. people get married for various reasons. some to buy hdb flats, some to get away from their parents, and some, because the government has painted the ideal portrait of the family as a perfect panacea for the emptiness of life.

i prefer to think tt people aren't tt stupid.

even though looking at the way things are, sometimes it seems tt way.

i for one, fear. marriage isn't the cure-all end-all, and unlike what my parents' generation might think, a failed marriage isn't the end of the world. but it is unnecessarily messy, draining and painful, and i would much prefer not to have to go through something like tt.

i fear tt having to spend a prolonged amount of time with one person; living together, growing old, having to put up with each other's nuances and idiosyncracies; the fatigue will set in. when you start taking each other for granted and the external pressures of work and forging ahead in each other's own career, meeting other people and getting tempted and swayed by the promises of money, power and desire; many things have and can drive a stake into the heart of a union tt is more than just an institution, but a promise originally forged from love.

kids will add to the joys of marriage, but to expect children to save a marriage is an unrealistic and selfish proposal. i want kids, yes, and i necessarily expect myself to make sacrifices and to devote my time to taking care of them. i might be an on-the-go person who likes going out and doing stuff now, but when i settle down, i know tt i will settle down and devote my time to the things tt will matter to me when the time comes - my family.

tt is why i fear tt if the effort is single-sided, it might be for naught.

there is just so much unrealism, too much selfishness, tt can poison something tt might start off beautiful.

once again it is far too early to tell, but if i do start something with you, i want it to be beautiful from the beginning, all the way till the day we die.