absolutum dominium

bro. i would have left this on your comments page, but your blog doesn't allow comments from non "team members". which includes pretty much everyone who doesn't have access to your blog.

to use one of the many overused cliches around, life is a mystery. you can't predict life and what happens in life, no matter what you think the odds are. and people being people, we are interdependent. we go through life every day choosing between options a and b, deciding which doors to go down, which paths to take. and invariably we will always ask for advice or a second opinion.

but just as lawyer indemnify themselves against instances where their advice results in an unplanned consequence, or doctors in a case where even with the best medical assistance a patient dies or suffers complications due to other unforeseeable factors, you cannot take personal blame for advice given to me.

let's face it bro. this whole time i've been getting opinions from both camps. and well... the reasons that the opposite camp gave me for not getting together with him was simply tt the relationship would be too new and fragile; tt he would have confidence problems about me straying and feel like his hands were being tied coz of me; tt the class differences would affect him too much.

and let's just say tt for whatever reasons tt we broke up, those weren't it. not the main contributing factors, at least.

you can't take responsibility for your advice. i made a choice of deciding what action to take, and to be honest bro, i still feel tt you give me one of the best pieces of advice every time. i have never regretted taking your advice once, and i don't regret taking it now. even if you hadn't given me your opinion, which i asked for, i would still have chosen to get together with him.

i don't regret anything tt's happened bro. i don't regret getting together with him. i don't regret those times we spent getting closer. i don't regret the happiness tt he brought me. i don't regret anything, not even the moments of sadness, of pain, and of the final separation, because for everything tt's happened, he's enriched my life with memorable experiences tt i can take to the grave.

rem how i told you tt no matter what, i have never regretted anything in my life? not even the screwed-up episodes, not even the mistakes made, not even the actions tt i have taken. i don't believe in "what ifs" and living in the past. i believe in the here and now. i don't believe in safe and successful living, i believe in passionate living. and for tt reason, i don't see anything tt i've done, and by postulation, anything tt you've told me, as a mistake.

don't take responsibility for the advice bro. there's no responsibility to be taken in the first place. there were no mistakes, no regrets, and i still want you to continue supporting and believing in me and giving me good advice tt i can use.

and i miss you like hell. there isn't anyone else i can be content with sitting at the playground at the clementi central hawker centre after a tanglin halt western food dinner and nestling a milo dinosaur till late into the night.